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Anjan Babu's avatar

You hit the nail on the head when you said that you didn’t want to root your entire personality to a group.

For me, it is both an outward and an inward resistance to dilute my whole being to a label that doesn’t define me. For eg: I love running but I am not a ‘runner’. I love reading but I am not a ‘reader’. I love my work but I am not a ‘workaholic’

The people whom I deeply connect with are those who know me a layer deeper than the above labels. Being in cliques seems to make it impossible to go beyond these labels. I may be wrong on the latter.

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Satyajit Rout's avatar

I have a similar inclination and I've come to the realization that I don't want to be a part of a group that (desperately) wants me. But I wouldn't mind being part of a group where the members are people I look up to. So a group where I'm the net beneficiary (in terms of learning) I'm keen to join; otherwise, I'm anywhere between not interested and lukewarm. What are the limits of your tendency?

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